Am I Just a Booty Call?

How well do you know him?

A man who is truly in love with a woman will open his life to her. This means he will let you know about his past, childhood, work and family. You don’t have to play detective because he will give you these information voluntarily. But you also need to be cautious with this type of person because he might just be the kind of person who loves to talk about himself.

Do you communicate verbally?

Do you go straight to the bed when you see each other and start the action? If yes, then you might just be a booty call for him. That is to say, if all he wants is sex, then whenever the two of you are together, he directly goes for the action, no chit-chats, no cuddles, and no watching movies. 

But also try to check which kind of non-verbal cues you send to him. For example, he sees you in a sexy lingerie when he arrives, then he might think that you want sex, now. Try to have a serious and deep conversation with him when he visits, who knows, you might find out a lot of similarities or even differences between the two of you.

Does he avoid you when you see him in public places?

“Am I just a booty call?” you ask yourself. The answer is yes if you see him out in public with a group of friends and then acts as if he doesn’t know you at all. That is a big red flag.

Do you know his friends?

A guy may not introduce a girl to his friends until he feels secure with the relationship. But if you have been seeing each other for several months, and you haven’t seen even a shadow of his friends, there might be something wrong. If he never talked about introducing you to his friends, most probably you are his secret booty call. 

Or if during the night he calls you to meet him in a bar with his friends, and says he wants to go to your place once you arrive, you might think this is the moment you’ve been waiting for. But if you find him waiting outside the bar with his things and some condoms, and his friends are nowhere to be found, ask yourself again “Am I just a booty call?” And the answer is probably a yes.

Another date is involved

He really doesn’t care about your feelings if he comes into your house and ask if he could stay there until his date picks him up because his date is near to your place than his. Now that’s a sure sign you are just a booty call. Or if you wake up in the morning and find him eating breakfast but he did not bother to prepare some for you.

Your period means nothing to him

A woman’s period is a natural and, most of the time, painful phenomenon which happens to her body regularly. A man who can respect this is a man worth keeping. And you are a booty call if your man cancels your date when he finds out it’s your period or asks for a head instead.

He just doesn’t care

He suddenly becomes busy or does not want to listen to your “dramas” when you are going through some tough times. Guys who treat you as their booty call will not bother dealing with your “issues” and will never act like a real boyfriend.

His words are always sexual

If you are still in the dilemma “Am I just a booty call?” definitely you are if he never asks how you are doing and where you are, and instead just texts you “You’re at the grocery store right now? I will surely have fun having sex with you there.” In this case, he will never compliment your inner beauty; for example, he says you are sexy instead of beautiful, and hot instead of witty.

More Signs of Being a Booty Call

• Your dates are always scheduled by him.

• You don’t see any progress in your relationship.

• You don’t cuddle after sex.

• He does not notice your new lingerie, but noticed your pubic hair maintenance.

• Your friends don’t like him.

• You’ve seen him with another girl.

• He prefers talking dirty than talking about babies and having family with you.

• You’re always drunk whenever you have sex.

• He doesn’t want to have eye contact with you during sex, and instead, he prefers to do it doggy style.

• You don’t have to ask yourself “Am I just a booty call?” if he immediately leaves after satisfying himself after sex, because definitely you are.